Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Wakeup call!

How many cares someone loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone. Coco Chanel.

That's what I got yesterday! Let me tell you, if you have a friend that has enough courage to tell you things that you don't necessarily want to hear, but need to hear, you are a lucky person. Fortunately I have just such a friend. I have been unhappy in my skin, in my life for a while now and couldn't put my finger on what I could do about it. Then I went to a friend's for tea and she started asking the hard questions. She pushed me to dig deep inside me and forgive myself, accept myself, but more importantly to accept the life I have in front of me. It's not a mistake, it's not something wrong, it's different and it's beautiful. I don't have to try so hard to be what I think other people want me to be. I don't have to bend over backwards to try and get people to like me and I don't have to accept bad behaviours toward me. What I see in the mirror is not the same thing other people see. I am not nothing - I am actually something.

To that friend I say thank you. And to everyone else who is reading this, I apologize from deep in my heart. I apologize for being obnoxious, for trying too hard, for trying to be something that I'm not. Today, I am going to start to try and really like the person that I am. Because I don't like the person that I am turning into!

Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have. Doris Mortman

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

Great stuff Mona. And very true. It might even sound simple, but it is really hard, isn't it? Thanks for sharing with us.

Carmen said...

Amen Mona!!

Crystal said...

((( HUGS ))) Good for you on figuring this one out and living it. Friends are the best, aren't they?!

Anonymous said...

*hugs* you are a cool friend.

Sue said...

{HUGS} to you - how very wise you are to accept your friend's words and to use them for the better instead of being angry or hurt! I hope you find peace in being who you really are.

Just Rhonda said...

I think it is a life long journey. To keep getting better and being OKAY with who we are. A complicated but wonderful journey. You are a good lady Mona. A really good lady. And I am proud of you for listening to sonmeone and taking it well. Not everyone would do that!

JennD said...

{{ hugs }} Mona
Just in case you need them. *S*

Gretel said...

You have a great friend there - and it sounds like you are a great friend too.

Tammy said...

I think it's good that we take a deep look at ourselves and evaluate the path we are on. Plus, this would make an awesome scrapbook page. Good luck on your new journey, I wish you much success!

Karen G said...

Mona you are loved. I am glad that you are able to take a step backwards in finding yourself so that you can continue to leap forwards! love yah!

Tara said...

Those words touched deep in my heart! I've struggled with being someone I'm not as well and am finally being me! HUGS to you Mona!!!

Ki Kruk said...

WOW Mona, your words really hit home with me. I confuse myself too often with trying to be someone or something I'm not. It's hard to accept and love yourself as you are so kudos to you. Maybe you can give me a pointer or two! Hugs to you my friend - best of luck on this new journey.

Heather M. said...

That's awesome that you have a friend like that. Keep on being who you truly are, Mona!